Celebrating Independence

By Michelle Baker
In Blog
July 3, 2015

Festive and colorful fireworks display

Many years ago, I celebrated Independence Day by hosting a “Dependence” Day party. Sure, the idea had a cute ring to it but I wanted to think about all the ways in which we as members of the 21C remained dependent.

At the time, I was a self-employed woman with no parent, sibling, husband, partner, child supporting me, and I believed I was fully independent.

But as I drafted the party invitations, I realized the complex untruth of that. Sure, I was free to earn, invest, and spend my own money as I chose. Indeed, I was, and thankfully remain, free to vote and participate in my country’s elections and law-making processes. And yes, I could buy organic produce and greasy fast food all during the same shopping excursion.

FREE BUT NOT SO INDEPENDENT

However, I saw another perspective that I continue to remind myself of: though I am free to act, choose, and do so many things that women in prior generations could not, and women in other countries to this day cannot, I understand that I am wholly dependent on others to make this, the life I choose to live, possible. I am dependent upon my clients to want my services and pay me for them. I am dependent upon people who know more than me with regards to investments, laws and taxes.

I am dependent upon the shipping, farming, and dry goods industries to keep going so that I can purchase food to eat. I am dependent upon the fuel industry. I am dependent upon other professionals whom I can hire in order to patch a leaky roof or fix my car. And I am dependent upon the structure of our government to stay in place in such a way that continues to assure these things are available to us, because if not, I would be dependent upon an airline to fly me to another country so that I could attempt to recreate a life where I am free to enjoy these similar liberties I have not just grown accustomed to but for better or worse, believe are intrinsic to humanity.

SOME CALL IT “INTER-DEPENDENCE”

Celebrating the July 4th. Statue of Liberty and fireworks.True, some call it “inter-dependence”. Whatever it is called, it is a form of dependence. Being dependent is not something we want to strive for – after all, as parents, we are constantly pushing our children to become more independent. That’s what being an adult is, right?

However, being dependent is a part of being human. We are social creatures. We thrive when we are needed. We wither when we are not. When humans are in relationship with one another – professionally and personally – bonds are formed; dependence in some form happens.

So this Independence Day, think about it: how are you independent, interdependent, fully dependent, and (why not) co-dependent?

Know that any of these can be changed at any time and for any reason. After all, we are free to make our own choices and act accordingly – and that, my friends, is assuredly a sign of independence.

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Michelle Baker
Michelle Baker has spent most of her adult life creating her own opportunities as an entrepreneur in real estate, health, education and as an artist. Michelle's experience has informed her practical education about marketing, networking, and the extraordinary power of creating one's own luck and fortune. Writing is just one way in which she enjoys cultivating ideas and conversations with people she wouldn't necessarily have the opportunity to talk with face-to-face. Writing for the Millionaire Girls' Movement is her way of contributing to a larger conversation that inspires women of all ages and professions to be more than they imagine. With each others' support, we certainly can do it.
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